Costume Vs. Charisma

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on June 17, 2015 by Jay Isip

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Many of us (including myself) cannot tell the difference between our own characteristics. It is hard to distinguish between who we are, who we had become, and who we pretend to be. Sometimes we want to become someone we are not, so we wear a costume to hinder our true charisma. We develop a shell to block our true selves because we are afraid to show the world who we truly are, or in most cases have gotten so caught up in our own costume that we completely lost our pure charisma.

Our charisma frequently changes if we continually wear our costumes…

If we wear the costume as a villain, we tend to send the wrong message, we influence others to do things we really don’t believe in, and we keep our masks on to have others join in on our untrue actions to help convince our selfishness that we are doing the right thing. But when the mask is off, we are a nobody and it saps our energy.

On the other hand, if we wear a super-hero costume it helps others in a positive way–it is still equally as draining. The costume we are now wearing is helping others find there way with positive charisma but, it’s still a costume. We get caught up in other peoples mess and help them clean it up by using our so-called super powers. The powers we have when the costume is on, is not our true power–it’s only used to show others and have them believe we attain them–which is a lie. When the mask comes off, we are still a nobody.

I’m guilty for this as well, I have had many costumes through the years just to keep myself guarded from others, as if I had some something special or sacred to hide–I had nothing. I was a low-life piece of garbage (at one point) but made everyone believe I was larger than life. My circus acts were nothing but a show, to make people laugh, to make others believe I was some type of super hero, or villain. But when the mask came off, and I was alone at night–I crumbled like the waffle cone–I was fragile.

My charisma–was false….

Until I finally woke up one day and said, “I can’t feel like this anymore.” I looked into the mirror and barley recognized the reflection and cried like a little school boy that lost his lunch. The costume I used to wear was attached to my skin like blood sucking leaches–and that’s what the costume did, sucked my blood dry of my true character.

Which ever costume we choose to wear, remember that its still a costume. If our costume is to have others join us on our villainous actions, then that’s bad charisma. If our costume is to help others in a positive manner, then that’s good charisma. But. either way, it’s not pure charisma and will never last forever.

So how can we develop a long lasting character, or spread pure charisma?

Take the mask off and be ourselves….

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Ready, aim, fire….

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on June 13, 2015 by Jay Isip

10014541_866548826736279_9194109830566766145_nReady, Aim, Fire! Always move forward when you are ready to move forward. While it feels good to have the reassurance, consent, opinions, and the outside perspectives of others, it yields no results for us or our creative tactics. Listening to what others think about our creative process will only slow down progression.

We need to learn to take outside opinions with as small a grain of salt as possible because a majority of the time, the outside opinion is geared towards their own personal preference. The outside opinion is not part of our original creative process, hence why it is called an outside opinion. If we let others influence our original thoughts, we are allowing them to steer us towards an unwanted path.

Like my childhood friend Brian Davis says, “Sometimes in our path, there are forks in the road. Either you must choose to go right or left, but no matter which direction we choose to go, it was our original thought and not someone else’s. By listening to an outside opinion meant we chose the path of destruction by heading straight towards the fork and smashing into the divider.”

So, let us always remind ourselves that we must move forward at our own will and no one else’s. Never wait for reassurance that “you are doing the right thing” because it will only halt your creative process. Should you encounter someone who wants to interrupt the free-flowing, productive, and creative path you have chosen, tell him or her to scat! Who are they to interfere with your creativity?

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Your ideas are like curry–it’s hipster-trending but they stink…

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on June 10, 2015 by Jay Isip

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Every restaurant is now adding curry to everything and I can’t stand it–let alone the smell. As the hipster-bee’s swarm around the freshly grown lifestyle of “it’s cool to be different” crops, the farm produce had harvested long sticky beards, under-shaved pompadours, flamboyantly colored  pants that are too tight, American diluted Japanese hair-buns, vintage only items that were actually re-produced this year, Lil-Weezy snap-backs and tattoo’s, and these crops need no showers–as if these trendy plants couldn’t stink the place up any more–they had decided to spice things up with some curry.

Their great idea, changed the world; created a new life-form of characters, and it flew through our generation like an ultra-violet gamma ray. Someone in the industry came up with an idea, and moved forward with it–which in turn, started a new culture.

I’m appalled that this idea worked, but….

I’m more appalled with everyone’s “great ideas” that people never move forward with. With our culture being so advanced, it has made it easier for our ideas to come into fruition–but at the same time much harder. Because of the easy access to information the world-wide-web had given everyone, it’s much simpler to learn, research, and get answers for our ideas to become alive. On the flip side, social media had developed a strong and valuable status-quo where everyone’s voice can be heard, and it counts (I know kinda sad right?). The abundant access of creating our ideas, terrifies us because anyone who has internet access (which is everyone) will see what we had brought to life–if we had at all. Also, there is too much information out there, too many opinions, and too many strategies–sometimes it’s just too much for one to handle.

So let’s keep it simple. To bring ideas to life, there are four principle’s…

1. Find a need, unsolved problem, or create one…

2. Master all of the essentials for the new problem…

3. Provide something different to an old standard…

4. Believe in what you have created, and take action…

Our ideas are great, and will only stay ideas until you begin to take some action–otherwise–it’s as useful as a hipster…

You see, one-day someone decided that they’re going to create a problem, and in this case, the origin problem was that it’s not okay to be different, nerds with glasses aren’t “cool”, and we should all be well groomed. But then, they said “hey, let’s all rebel against this standard outlook” which then made it okay. They began playing dress up with celebrities and slapping them with every vibrant color on the paint chart at Home Depot, giant nerdy framed glasses from Steve Urkel, and giving them grooming styles that looks like they had never been groomed before. They fashion industry made it cool to be different; cool to look like crap; and cool to look lazy. Kind of oxymoron, but it worked–and I can’t believe it. It makes me sick, and on top of everything–they threw some curry on it–everyone all of a sudden is a curry king.

Side thought: Personally, I don’t like curry. My friends and family love it, but there’s just something about it that makes my intestines squirm around like worms in dirt. I’ll throw up right now…

But…

If someone can completely change a worldview with simple tactics, create an entire culture with a simple twist, and have everyone change there outlook to think they are different when they’re actually all the same–why the hell can’t we?

Take your ideas, write them down, follow the principles, and start working on them–most of all–shut your god damn mouth. No one wants to hear your great ideas anyway–most of the time we only subjectively speak about our ideas, and swim for responses for our ideas to either; fluff our ego, or find an excuse to why we can’t proceed with our idea’s.

In conclusion, only share your ideas with people you want involved, otherwise—shut the hell up….

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The art of dying…

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on June 9, 2015 by Jay Isip

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I’ve had swords swung at my face; I’ve had guns pointed at my face; I’d gotten into deadly street brawls; I’d been locked inside a cage to fight another animal seeking for blood; I’d attempted car crashing suicide; I’d drawn blood from people with my own hands; I’d seen people draw blood from me; I’d seen people die right on the pavement;  several times I had stared into the eyes of the Grim Reaper, but he never sliced me with his scythe–but each time was just as scary as the last.

Most of us fear death, we are terrified to no longer live in a life that we are accustomed too. We are programmed to be alive, using our senses, and walking through our everyday routine of monotony, progression, or regression.  All of us, live differently–none of us have the same lives–but all of us are scared to die.

Why?

Based upon our beliefs, when death occurs, the outcome is different. Some believe we will enter a land of paradise, or a land of torture. Some believe we will be reincarnated into a new life-form. Some believe our spirits will break into a molecular wave and recreate from the atoms. Some believe we will just poof in the air into dust. These believes have all one thing in common–they’re all assumptions. There is no true evidence that any form of after-life had been proven. After-life is only based off of stories, theory’s, and beliefs.

The reason we fear death is because we are stepping into the unknown. We have no idea what we will enter when our heart stops beating. The fear of major change, is why we are truly scared of death. There is no way we can prepare for this moment. We could believe in all the theory’s, stories, and assumptions that are embedded in our minds–but none of that matter until we actually experience death. We will never actually know, until we die…

Yet, the same goes for life…

We are all scared to do something new; terrified to step into the unknown; afraid of challenging our minds to have our body enter a new life-form. We could have all the knowledge in the world, but none of that ever matters until we actually take action with what we know–what sucks is that most of us will never move forward with our knowledge because we’re afraid. Most of us would “rather die” than do something different that we know could possibly make our lives better–you’re a chump.

We don’t actually fear death–we fear change….

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Help yourself…

Posted in Uncategorized on June 5, 2015 by Jay Isip

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Many of us stress the fact that helping others make us happy, when in reality most of us are not happy within ourselves. This is a misleading action of self fulfillment. We must be happy with OURSELVES before we help others. Otherwise, it is just an action of selfishness to make us temporarily feel better… it’s equivalent to sniffing a line of coke, the same dopamine’s are triggered…  #happyday #happiness #happychasinghappy

Fear this….

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on June 4, 2015 by Jay Isip

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Fear happens in our lives consistently, and we have no idea. We come up with great ideas, and then automatically shut them down with excuses. “If I only had the time” or “People would love my idea, but I can’t figure out how to create it.” Most of the time, we know what we have to do–but fear steps in the way and shuts us down. We are afraid to fail, be embarrassed, lose, or neglected. We’re also too lazy to deal with the outcome if we do fall down, the process of getting back up and doing it all over again–is to stressful for our lives–bullshit…

Personally, I had learned to deal with fears in an odd way. For entire year, I placed my self in situations that I knew would had made me uncomfortable. Every single day, I would do minor things to help me embrace the feelings of nervousness, timidness, anxiety, and anxiousness–so that when a larger fear comes forward, I am able to adjust to the feeling of nerve wrecking parallelization.

I would scratch my nails on chalkboards (we all know that sucks)…

I would go on amusement park rides (because I was terrified of them–yes its true)…

I would put my left shoe first instead of my right (because I’m used to the opposite)…

I would do everyday activities with my left hand (because I’m right handed)…

I would take opposite roads while driving and get lost on purpose (because I would have to figure it out–no GPS)…

Now when the larger fears would come to surface, it was much easier to deal with…

Stepping in the cage to fight…

Investing into a new business opportunity…

Building a true relationship…

These are just some examples of what helped me fight my fears, and now I’m addicted to fear. I enjoy the feeling of being uncomfortable. I love the feeling of bumble-bee’s swarming my stomach. I Can’t wait to get my palm sweaty again. I strive for it….

I suggest you do the same…

You see, for every second that goes by there is constant fighting going on inside of us. Some fights are so easy that we subconsciously do not even recognize there was even a fight going on in the first place. Then there are the tough fights, ones where we cannot even bear the mere thought of them because we might snap, so we decide the best solution is to retreat. Wrong, we chose the cowardly solution. What we must learn, as individuals who want to grow, is to transform the tough fights we retreat from into the easy fights we don’t even notice.

I know, easier said than done. We must do this because fear is the number one super villain and the kryptonite to our souls that exists in our solar system. This super villain is immortal, will never go away, will poison our minds and bodies, varies in size and power, and will hunt us down our entire lives as long as we decide to stay inferior. Our weakness gives fear the power to kill us at any speed it wishes with its ruthless actions. We can die a slow death, a fast death, or the worst kind of death—death while still alive. Fear can take our insides for keeps and leave us empty and incapable of growing. Fear is the kind of super-villain that will use its power to take away our power to love, rip it into shreds of confetti, and throw it in the air during the celebration of a new marriage.

“Do you take FEAR into holy matrimony until DEATH do you part? I do.” Yet, did you know that we also possess superpowers of our own that can be enhanced the more we search for it? That’s right, we have the superhero powers to crush fear dead in its tracks, diminish the thoughts of it, and suck the negative spirits right out of its heart. Enough is enough, let us start striking back at our fears and begin to develop the fighter that is inside all of us. So the next time we are asked to enter into matrimony again with fear, we will boldly say, “I do not.”

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Be careful, those kids are not a good influence–I know I wasn’t…

Posted in Uncategorized on June 3, 2015 by Jay Isip

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Do you remember that phrase we often heard as kids and teenagers “Be careful, those kids are not a good influence on you?” Well, unbelievably, this has to be asked once again and applied to our current life. If we are trying to achieve our goal, with our best interest in mind, it would not be wise to hang out with degenerates, losers, or any other kinds of people that will bring us and our morale down.

No matter what the relationship is, take a step back, look from the outside in, look inside each individual, and ask yourself “Is this person a negative influence on me?” You have to question everyone from your best friends, siblings, teammates, girlfriend, boyfriend, coworkers, the mailman, neighbor etc. Are they happy or are they just living day to day with a “woe is me” attitude? Are they acting on the present to help their future? Or are they dwelling on the past like a 40-year old man at a bar telling everyone how great of a quarterback he was in high-school as he is yelling at the football team on TV on what plays they should be running? Well, if he knew so much and was that great of a quarterback then why isn’t he on the field? Because, this 40-year old man is a has-been who is trying to arm wrestle everyone at the bar to prove “he’s still got it” and is living in the past.

We all know and have seen these types of people and most likely have a few of them hanging around us. You have to ask yourself, are they doing better today than they were last year, or are they still stuck and bitter? In all seriousness, take a step back and look at the people that surround your life. Now take their life into perspective and see how, and if it does, help you become closer to your goals. Nine times out of ten, that individual is holding you back.

Personally, I know I wasn’t a good influence to people during my “glory days” of mischievous activities. I was a terrible influence, but I had a strong effect on peoples decisions, which is why I use to manipulate others to join me during my villainous actions. Now, I believe I will still influence others with leading by example, build strong relationships with others in a positive manner to help one another. The key is to help each other grow, not to compete, or drag one another down.

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